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Comment on Men’s Rights does not mean Anti- Feminist by susannemoore

susannemoore — Mon, 15 Apr 2013 07:31:12 +0000

Hi Tom, thanks so much for your thoughtful comment. I agree that we need to address all incidents of domestic (and other) violence, I guess that given the history of inequality between the sexes a women’s need has been the greatest and therefore many men in similar circumstances may have suffered as a result. I also personally agree that both parents should be involved in birth control and if it comes to that, abortion, unfortunately too many women and girls are left to make the decision and deal with the consequences themselves. If we could instead teach our young men to be more responsible and proactive when it comes to sex so that they know that the result of unprotected sex could be very long term. I am not saying it is right, but I do think we need to encourage a language around the ‘right to choose’ that is inclusive of men, but does not try to control and manipulate women. I say that, because men still out number women as government policy makers and as a result, can sway policy so that it ensures that a women takes the submissive traditional role of wife and mother instead of allowing her to choose freely without being penalized.

I am not sure where your figures are coming from, but I guess the US? Incidents of domestic violence in some other countries like Africa, Pakistan, Indian and Afghanistan are very much higher for women and of course much of this is related to their culture. In Australia the incidence of domestic violence among our indigenous women is extremely high and certainly outweighs that of domestic violence against men.

I certainly agree with you that the problem that men face with domestic violence is a societal issue and we do have some serious issues to now face in terms of the gang rape culture among young men that is reported as being the new way of ‘belonging’ and showing masculinity. Violence is violence and it is not the way to handle any confrontation, if only we could get this message across.

Comment on Men’s Rights does not mean Anti- Feminist by Tom

Tom — Mon, 15 Apr 2013 06:35:37 +0000

I know this post is a bit old, but I have been studying Men’s rights, domestic violence against men, male victims of rape, etc. While some issues brought up by these groups are illogical, many are issues that should at least be looked at more. What I have learned so far is that women are abused by their parter at a rate of 1 in 4 (In the US), while men are abused at a rate of 1 in 7 (in the US0. While it isn’t hard to see that women are the victims more than men, Every city in America has a shelter dedicated to women. The studies get most of their data from these shelters. There are just a handful of shelters that address men and women, no shelters that are dedicated to just men. Even the domestic violence hotlines, while using gender neutral language, cater to women 95% of the time. I called a shelter the other day asking about resources for men and was hung up on. I called back and was told not to call back. I called a few more and only one out of the 10 I called offered my any advice for male victims. Their advice was to contact local law enforcement, go to a homeless shelter, get a hotel room, and gave me a number to call. The number was to a anger management group.

The problem men face with domestic violence is not one caused by feminism, but society in general. There is a stigma all men face, at least in the US that claims men can’t be victims of rape, sexual abuse, domestic violence, etc. This stigma formed because of other stigmas men face claiming they have to be strong, they can’t cry or show emotion, if a woman hits them they probably deserved it, they can’t do anything remotely feminine or they will lose their “man card”. These stigmas cause male victims of domestic violence to hesitate and refuse to report these crimes because they feel ashamed. When it comes to male victims of domestic violence and rape, men are invisible only because society systematicall chooses to ignore them.

In regards to abortion, most men’s rights advocates don’t want to take away a womans right to choose, they just want an equal (as equal as they can get) option of opting out of an unwanted pregnacy. The way a man could do this would be to opt out of financial obligations and parental responsibilities. This would have to be done before the child is born and require women to notify them of their pregnancy. If they aren’t notified they are given a time to decide. This seems like an excuse for men to be deadbeet dads, but it’s not as the man would only have the same amout time a woman has to perform the abortion.

Any MRA that blames feminism for these things lacks a proper understanding of feminism and why men face such stigmas. As a men’s rights advocate, not only am I fighting the misconceptions of normal male behavior, I am fighting the misconceptions people assign Men’s rights advocates.

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Comment on Educate a woman. Watch the ripple effect. by susannemoore

susannemoore — Sun, 18 Nov 2012 22:53:29 +0000

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Comment on A different take on sexual harassement – Debating the sexual harassment bill by susannemoore

susannemoore — Fri, 14 Sep 2012 09:23:58 +0000

Thank you for your comment Jhakasbachha. I am not sure what you are saying? I am not saying that there are not cases where men have been victims of domestic violence or sexual harassment, with a women as the perpetrator of the violence or harassment. In fact, in my own experience as a manager I have had to counsel men who have felt uncomfortable with the advances or aggressive behaviours of a woman and have had to speak to the female involved. What I am saying is a fact, that the world over women ARE the greatest victims of sexual abuse (rape), domestic violence and sexual harassment. I don’t believe this to be true – it IS true. Perhaps you could do some further study? It would be great if you could provide the transcripts or factual detail of the NCRB that demonstrates that more men are subjected to violence at the hands of a female than a female is subjected to violence at the hands of a man. If this is the case, then yes the laws should be gender neutral so that it does not discriminate against a male or a female.

I don’t have the ‘cloud of feminism” in my eyes – I am not a feminist, but I do believe that there should be equality for both males and females and currently, in many circumstances this is not the case.